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Implementing Microscopic Change For Mega-Impact Results

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It is amazing how seemingly microscopic adjustments can have such drastic results on your life. I just implemented a little tweak to my weight training and got immediate and dramatic results–increasing my strength by at least 10 pounds.

I’ve been weight training for many years and have a pretty good sense for what I am doing.

At least I thought so.

But apparently I still have a lot to learn…and tweak. I’ll explain in a sec…

The other day while training (it was back day) at the gym, I was listening to a podcast and the man being interviewed was an expert in power lifting. While I do not train like a power lifter, I figured perhaps there were still some things I could learn from this expert in his practice (yes, weight training is a PRACTICE) at the very least, I could be entertained.

Then came the big secret! I halfway listened to the podcast while I got my swoll on–that is until I had my mind blown by the simplest little detail that I had been overlooking for so long. (my ego was also put in check 😉

In the midst of a list of simple tips and tricks to increase strength, the man suggested, among other things, squeezing the weight in your hands as hard as possible while pushing or pulling.

What!?!

That’s it!?!

Yes!!!!!!

That. Is. It!

That is the magical secret that I discovered and  implemented and am still benefiting from. Here’s how it worked.

The ironic thing is that as I was listening, I has weight in my hand and was not squeezing very hard as I pulled the weight. Instead I was doing as I often do–creating a sort of hook with my fingertips and pulling with the hook.

I followed the suggestion and I tried changing up my grip as the guy suggested. I held the handle closer into my palm and clinched my fist nearly as hard as I could while pulling the weight.

It worked! It really worked! That one seemingly minuscule tweak had a major impact on my training and my strength has gone through the roof!

Catch this!

A lot of times, we seek monumental shifts in our lives and think that if we don’t make huge adjustments, that real change will never occur. While that is sometimes the case, more often than not, the truth is that regular, small tweaks are what combine to become the monumental changes. These little tweaks compound in ways that we hardly notice until they explode into large results.

Take just a second and think about your own life. What are some small changes that you could make in your life, and your thinking, and your belief system, that could have a huge impact in your life?

Here are a few suggestions. (But there are many more!)

1. Choosing to be mindful of the things you think about: When you are mindful of your thoughts you have mastery over them. That is the way God would have us life. After all, He gave us His authority, as well as, full access to His mind.

2. Do not accusing yourself: Just don’t do it! Don’t go there! You know who you are and what God says about you. Therefore, jump to #3.

3. Encouraging yourself: If necessary, constantly remind yourself of your oneness with God. Encourage yourself regularly by reminding yourself who you are. You will soon find yourself being a great encourager of others.

Don’t get overwhelmed by the big picture. Stay focused, stay positive and make small tweaks as needed and watch the results simply happen.

Peace and love!

 

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4 Question Filter That Tells You Whether Or Not To Share That Story

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I think I’ve found a gaping hole in the market so to speak. In fact, I know I have and I think I should share it with you.

Sometimes–more like, most of the times–when everyone seems to be zigging, it’s a good thing to start zagging.

So how are people zigging? Let’s take a look.

Right now there is a rush to be known, heard and recognized. The lust of notoriety is fueled by a seemingly endless appetite for entertainment and an almost non-existent barrier of entry to release content makes it possible.

With this modern phenomena comes a flood of great stories called “testimonies”, which help inspire droves of other people. Testimonies are fantastic in many ways, but sometimes we seem to forget that the there can be a downside.

We seem to forget that on the other side of the story is a person. A person with feelings. Becoming caught in the vigor and excitement of hearing or seeing something amazing, we can rush to share what could very well be an encounter that is better left confidential.

There seems, to me, to be a generally blatant disregard for the confidentiality of people’s private lives.

The other day I posted the following statement: “The body of Christ desperately needs to relearn the lost art of confidentiality and to operate in the discernment of when to utilize it.”

I am a person who has both shared thrilling testimonies, which have helped many people see what was possible, and kept particular encounters to myself.

These days, God is having me do much more of the latter. He is doing so in me personally for a couple of reasons.

  1. He is increasingly putting me in the lives of people who have a high need and value for confidentiality.
  2. He is teaching me that He also has a high value for keeping some things between me and Him.

Where are you? Is God having you do one more than the other or is it a both/and? Do you not know? If not, it is something to consider.

If you are not sure or would like to further develop the art of determining whether or not to share that story—no worries—I’ve got ya covered.

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself that will help give you a filter when deciding whether or not to share a story about your interaction with another person.

1. What are your motives? Do a little internal evaluation real quick. Be honest with yourself and if you truly are driven by the leading of God to share the story, do it! If you ask yourself this question and the answer is “yes”, proceed to question 2. If “no”, abort.

2. How will sharing the story or information effect your relationship? Some stories are not worth telling because by doing so, you would negatively alter the course of the relationship between you and the other person. Helping other people is great, but at the potential cost of damaging a relationship or hindering a potential relationship…not worth it. Let’s move on.

3. Que Bono? If you make it past questions 1 and 2 and still are considering sharing the story, ask your self “Que Bono?” or who benefits. Usually just asking yourself the question and putting yourself in context of being aware of the other person’s interest, you will find that you already know the answer of whether or not to share. In the ideal situation, it is not one person or the other who benefits. It is both you and them are blessed, as well as, the people who get to hear the story. There should be no losers; only winners.

4. Will it in any way dishonor another person? By sharing the story of your interaction with another person, even if their name is removed, would they in any way be dishonored? If so, you know the answer.

I hope this helps and I hope that you thrive in walking the line of keeping things confidential and blessing others with great stories to help stretch them in their own development.

Always keep in mind, there is no replacing a good friend who you can trust with confidential information. In today’s world these kinds of relationships seem to be harder to come by.

If you practice and get good at doing this, you will find that people will be drawn to you and want to be your friend.

 

 

 

 

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6 Simple Ways To Be Relationally Cool With God

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Have you ever wondered how to be cool with God? I have. It is so refreshing that He has made tapping into, and cultivating, a thriving and vibrant relationship with Him so simple, but we often forget…

It’s so simple, in fact, that it takes a smart person to screw it up. We say that we want to be friends with God, but we often don’t treat Him as though He is one. But give yourself a break! Seriously.

In just a sec I’ll tell you a few keys, in easy to understand jargon, that I wish someone would have spelled out for me.

I fully believe that most people don’t intentionally not interact with God in a way that is relationally healthy, they just don’t know how.

I mean, think about it, if we humans often have such a hard time relating with each other, then of course learning how to be cool with God may also take a little thoughtfulness.

The good thing is that you can grow in relational skills with both God and other people at the same time.

It is almost hilarious how easy and simple He has made fellowship with Him to be. We as humans just love to over-complicate things. That’s why I provide these few simple keys to utilize, because I learned simplicity the hard way.

Remember, God is a person.

He has actual, current thoughts, feelings, opinions, perspectives and emotions

Look, I get it. Sometimes it’s hard to be aware of this. I have many conversations with folks who struggle with being engaged and present with a spouse who can actually be easily and tangibly recognized. It is even more difficult when you are relating with what can appear to be Divine invisibility. Ha!

But, here’s the thing: like any other relationship that is important to us, it is paramount that the other person is not a duty to us, and that we learn to engage them with our full attention.

Some may accuse you of “working”, but you know that you are not working, you are driven by love.

Here are some examples of keys to healthy interaction, and remember, this has nothing to do with working or striving and has everything to do with being cool with God, because after all, He is ALWAYS cool with us.

 

Check this out:

 

1. Care about what He has to say

Seriously! This sounds obvious, but it is easy, especially in relationships where there is comfortability, to have things go in one ear and straight out the other. Relational laziness.

You can have an obligatory conversation with another person with the other person being very aware that you do not care what they have to say. They will not be impressed, nor should they be impressed by this lackluster dutiful attempt. You may as well not have even attempted it because no real relational connection was made.

God is not impressed with these sorts of dutiful interactions. He is interested in caring about what you have to say and you also caring about what He has to say.

 

2. Enjoy being with Him

Who wants to be with someone that has no interest in being them? NO ONE!

Fortunately God is awesome. Really, really awesome and He doesn’t hold it against us.

Any other human being would take such behavior as rejection and quickly abort the friendship in search of more compatible pairings. It is so freeing to realize that God is always fully present, even if we aren’t.

He is secure enough in Himself to not turn off His heart to you because of feelings of rejection. That is an enjoyable fact that draws us into further depth of engagement with Him.

 

3. When He is talking, be attentive and actually listen, don’t just hear

We are all guilty of half way listening when talking with another person.

You strike up a convo with your spouse or friend, only walk away or pull out your phone as soon as they start talking. It makes no sense, but it happens all the time. Same occurs with God. People often ask God something and the get frustrated that He doesn’t answer. My first question when I hear this is, “Did you listen for an answer”

…Crickets…

God doesn’t have a talking problem, people have a listening problem.

 

4. Find out what He is interested in, not just what you are interested in

No one likes the friend who is only interested in themselves and wants to dominate every interaction with their own agenda vomited carelessly into the relational area.

In fact, that is hardly a friend.

Surely there are times when one friend has needs that require attention and need to take preference, but aside from exceptions like that, relationship should be a mutually beneficial flow and exchange of thoughts, feelings, perspectives, insights.

 

5. Make note of His tendencies (ways) and interact accordingly

If you are aware of these tendencies and are relationally aware, you will notice and easily be able to interact accordingly.

Being the awesome God that He is, He likes to meet you in those, but sometimes stretches you outside of those.

In interacting with God, you will begin to recognize patterns. These patterns are not formulas, but you will find that He has created you and wired you to communicate and relate in ways that are unique.

 

6. Always give Him the benefit of the doubt

A reasonable person who has a dear friend, who appears to have done something offensive, will always give the friend the benefit of the doubt.

They will defend the friend in their mind first, before accusing them.

This is because they know the friend well and trust their motives and intentions. Being cool with God is the same way.

Don’t rush to judgment and make assumptions and acquisitions of Him. Just because something doesn’t appear to be logical to you doesn’t mean that what is going on isn’t about to rock your world for the better.

It may just look different than you thought. After all, He is always good and always has your best interest in mind.

 

God is always going to love you, even if you treat Him like dirt.

But why in the world would you want to do that?!?

Why not grow in depth of relationship by practicing very practical relational ninja approaches like this so that you can clear the communication channels and freely interact God.

Give it a shot and have a blast doing it. It’ll change your world!

 

P.S. The keys equally apply to relating to your friendships and significant other, so practice them often and watch as the depth and quality of your relationships thrive! 😉

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